Balancing Mother’s Day
We’re heading to Eric’s Mom’s tomorrow morning for a over-due visit, and a much-needed hiatus from home before we start Job Hunt Spring Edition 2008 on Monday.
Lucy is excited to go to Gramie’s house, where she promises to give her big hugs and kisses.
I’ve already called sleep-in rights for Sunday (Eric, over my shoulder: “No you’re not!”), something my husband can hardly refuse considering it’s Mother’s Day (“Oh. Right. Grrr.”).
Eric and Lucy came home from their forced house vacancy during Jen’s shower last weekend with a mysterious rectangular box stuffed inside a reusable shopping bag. I am intruiged. And Lucy came home from daycare Wednesday with a hand painted pot, which I absolutely adore. It’s so true that when you become a mom, the best gifts are those created by your children’s own hands.
If it’s true that Mother’s Day gets harder when you get married (especially when said mothers are in different cities, hours away), it becomes even harder still when you become a mother yourself — torn between wanting to spend time with and honour your own precious parent on this special day, and wanting to be pampered and loved by your own new family.
How do all of you handle this? Split the day between everyone? Take turns each year? I wonder how my own mother and mother-in-law handled this when they became parents
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I think next year, having a toddler and chubby parasite baby — providing the only two grandchildren for each mom, so far — will have earned me the right to my first sleep-in at home and breakfast in bed.
I hope you all have a great weekend and wonderful Mother’s Day with your families — no matter how or with whom you celebrate it!
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It’s definitely a balancing act, trying to make the day special for all the moms involved. Growing up my grandparents were far away, so we never saw them on Mother’s Day. I think because of that my mom likes at least a phonecall on Mother’s Day, but is fine with not seeing us. Some years we see her, but other years she spends with one of my brothers.
We’re lucky that Ed’s mom lives close so we can see her easily. This year we’re going out to brunch in the morning, then heading over to Ed’s parents’ house for dinner.
For once I actually remembered to put some “Happy Mother’s Day” cards in the mail about a week ago to both the moms, so I’m pleased about that.
Have a great weekend away.
Both of our Mom’s are in different cities as well. Uncle Randy’s Mom is in Amherstburg a good 5 1/2 hours away. She has always understood how difficult it is to be in two places at the same time and has never pressured us to come and visit. That changed a couple of years ago and she felt that it was becoming too one sided with her getting the short end. We certainly understood and have really tried hard in our 22 years of marriage to keep it balanced. She just turned 87 and Grandma just turned 86 so they are both really getting up there in age. The older they get we find the more torn we are that we can not be in two places at the same time. It would be great to see them both on special holidays but the distance is a real factor. This Mother’s day we are off to Amherstburg to see Uncle Randy’s Mom for a change. We spent last weekend with Grandma celebrating her 86th birthday and of course Mother’s day early. Have fun at your mother-in-law and enjoy your day.
I find every holiday a juggling act with our families - and both of ours live in Durham!!
This year will be especially difficult as my Mum is in the hospital so we need to try and make it special for her, then see my mother-in-law and then try to “fit in” something for me.
This year I also told my husband he can figure out what to do for his Mom since I have exclusively figured it out for the last 4 years!
Last year, my first Mother’s Day was special for me though. My Dad and husband made breakfast for my Mum and I at the cottage. We saw my mother-in-law on the Saturday.
Good call on calling dibs on sleeping in on “your” day
My parents are coming down to my brother’s on Sunday for a barbeque and on Saturday we’re going to my in-laws for more food.
Since my husband is going to a stag on Saturday night, he might be the one sleeping in on Sunday … it’s not fair. The same thing happened two years ago when we got married, he got hammered at his stag the night before Mother’s Day and I had to do everything. Thankfully there was only Lexy at the time .. but still …
Even though both our mothers live in the same town we do, it’s still a juggling act. Usually we have just separated to be with our respective mothers, but this year we did my mom’s day last week and his mom’s day this week, but only because my mom is going out of town.
I haven’t heard any plans for me and I refuse to plan my own mother’s day. But let me tell you, if I don’t get to celebrate mother’s day, even just a little bit, Someone will get an ear full.
lol Jen, you even sound pregnant …
Yes, its a really juggling act. I feel always a little guilty because my mother in law lives around the corner and we see her alwys in the afternoon. My own mother lives about 9000 km away, but this year she gets a belated mothers day ( 2 weeks later ). Instead of a cardin her mailbox, I will arrive completly tired after an 8 hour flight with two little cranky kids at her door. Hopefully for 3 weeks vacation will see how this turns out. Happy Mothers Day to all!